Category Archives: A chat with Jan

The Problem with Assuming

Have you ever assumed something about someone later to find out you were wrong? Me too! I’ve read that statistically, most assumptions are wrong. You might assume that a lady in your church didn’t text you back because she doesn’t like you and later find out she never received your text. Something similar happened toContinue reading “The Problem with Assuming”

Designed to Need Each Other

Are you feeling lonely? Feeling like no body understands what you are going through? Girl, I get it. You aren’t alone in this. In fact, many of us pastors’ wives feel this way or have felt this way at some time. I think it’s one of the biggest tactics the devil uses to distract us.Continue reading “Designed to Need Each Other”

Letting Go of Offense

If you’ve been a pastor’s wife for very long, chances are you have had some hurtful things said to you. Sometimes it may feel as though you’re a target for people to tell you what they really think. I’ve had women criticize my clothes, my children, you name it. I even had one lady tellContinue reading “Letting Go of Offense”

When You Don’t Know What to Say

I recently lost my parents to COVID and experienced a whole new level of grief. It’s been hard, but I am so grateful that my parents did not have to suffer for very long. Grief is a strange thing – some days it’s overwhelming, while others it’s a dull, quiet pain that hovers beneath theContinue reading “When You Don’t Know What to Say”